Buy her dinner
Buy her multiple dinners
Write her adoring letters on actual paper
Dedicate a song for her on the radio
Perform a choreographed dance for her with forty-six friends
Cook her favorite meal
Take her up in a hot air balloon
Walk 1000 miles to see her
Send her one million roses
Kill several hundred spiders
Take her on a trip to Paris
Buy her Hamilton tickets
Rescue her from pirates
Write and perform a song for her that hits number one on the pop charts
Steal the Hope Diamond for her
Be her shoulder to cry on
Text her cute things
Tell her she’s beautiful
Buy her the exactly perfect present
Donate a kidney to her
Even if he does several of these things, she owes him nothing.
Let’s say he does ALL of these things for a woman, and then he asks her to be his girlfriend, or wife, or whatever. She says no. That’s totally fine: she owes him nothing. He voluntarily gave her all of those things. I can understand why this would be a very disappointing outcome, but she still owes. him. nothing. And really, maybe he should get to know a woman better before he steals the Hope Diamond for her.
This situation does not sit well with some men. They want to live in a world where they can trap women into relationships/sex/attention/whatever by being nice to them. Those men are terrible, and they should live with cave trolls.
And they should remember that no one is forcing them to do any of these things! If a guy likes a girl, it’s ok for him to do nice things for her and hope that she likes him back, but doing those things with any sense of entitlement is truly repulsive. And if the fact that she can say no makes the effort not worth it to him, then heads up, the effort isn’t worth it to him.
(And to all you guys who know this already, thank you for existing. You are the best!)