I recently stopped seeing my old therapist and found a new one. It was a really hard decision to leave, because working with her had been great and extremely helpful in the past, and I wasn't sure if the things that I didn't like about her practice were actually worth leaving for or if I was just missing something that would make sense if I could get over myself. Starting over with a new therapist can be emotionally exhausting, too, and I wondered if it wouldn't just be easier to work around my concerns with my current one.
But many helpful conversations with Dave and Anna helped me realize that, even if I technically could make it work with this therapist, I shouldn't have to work that hard at it. After all, therapy is hard enough when everyone is on the same page! I also realized that, ironically, I needed to actually apply what I learned in therapy and listen to and trust my own misgivings about it. I needed to respect where I currently am, and even if her method would be more effective eventually, I’m not there yet, and it wasn't doing me any favors to pretend I was.
I doubted myself a lot after I ended my counseling, and I was really nervous about my first appointment with my new therapist. But I'm happy to report that it was wonderful. She validated so many of my concerns and ideas, and we had a good, shared understanding of what my therapy should look like and achieve. It felt so much easier, and I'm so excited to keep working with her.
As I left the appointment, I felt relieved, but I also shuddered to think that I had been this close to staying with my old counselor and trying to make it work; I had almost denied myself this chance to have a much better and easier therapy experience. I could have made my life so much harder in the name of familiarity, fear, and self-doubt, in the name of scarcity instead of abundance. But thankfully, I didn't.
So if you have any doubts or concerns about your current therapist/doctor/dentist/what have you but you're not sure if you should find a new one, let me encourage you to trust your gut and seriously think about it. You might not even realize how much were missing until you find someone new.